I’ve had this expression in my head now for a number of weeks, and it was whilst out on another lovely walk yesterday that a graphical way to help describe what it is I’ve been to trying to say, came to me.
As some of you reading this may know, March 2015 was not the most enjoyable period of my life. Without wishing to sound dramatic, I came out of Kings College Hospital with the knowledge that there was an unwelcome lodger in my head. After going through surgery, we then had that agonising wait, that I know so many people go through. We didn’t knowing whether the lodger, that unfortunately the surgeon couldn’t evict, was of a nature that meant it would spread into other ‘rooms’ or whether it would remain where it was, and perhaps gradually take over more space.
Although it was only a relatively short time (i.e. a week) that we had to wait for my surgeon to ring, during that week our world, perhaps like that of many other’s, felt like it had been turned upside down.
My surgeon’s phone call, to tell us that the lodger was not planning to spread, came in just as we were driving back, from celebrating our wedding anniversary.
As an aside, when I was reading this post through to my wife, she asked, “do you really need to put that bit it?” I felt I did and the reason is I wish to highlight the wider impact of such good news, because it’s all too easy to forget about the significant turmoil and stress your ‘life partner’ can go through especially as the ‘onlooker’ who can often feel helpless.
As you may imagine, it was, without doubt, the best anniversary present anyone could have given us. Although it hasn’t been totally plain sailing since that day, I hope by what I have written that you realise that I totally appreciate how fortunate we were to be given the news that I didn’t have to be readmitted into hospital.
So, that brings me nicely to what I’ve been wishing to explain: for me, and possibly for others, receiving that fortune brought a whole new perspective on life. It’s like a modern day lifeboat going out on a rough sea; if it turns upside down, it is typically able to right itself. The courageous people manning the lifeboat don’t generally wish to abort the mission. In fact they’re likely to have even more ‘fire in their bellies’ to go forward in order to find those who are in the unfortunate situation of needing their help.
I hope what I have described has made sense and is of some help. But it does seem as if this post has turned out to be more about first-aid rather than making lemonade 😊.